Now That You Know: A Parents' Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children, Updated Edition
|Rating||:||4.55 (507 Votes)|
|Number of Pages||:||300 Pages|
Betty Fairchild is a contributor for Houghton Mifflin Harcourt titles including: "Now That You Know".
This book is sadly out of date. Upon the recommendation of others, I bought this book; however, many better choices exist for parents dealing with the new knowledge that they have a gay child. This book's information comes from the 70s. Even though the book has been republished twice, the authors have done an inadequate job of keeping up-to-date. I'm sure the book seemed heaven sent in the early 80s, but not now.. Too Old For Modern Use A Customer It's obvious that this book was useful back when it was originally written, in the 1970s. But with the changing issues involving gay and lesbian youths in the 1990s, a 1970s approach isn't applicable.I bought this book as a guide to how to tell my parents. After reading the book for myself, I decided the book would do more harm than good, giving my parents a view about the gay lifestyle as one embodied in the 1970s, not the comfortable, main-stream life I lead today and believe most of my friends do also.. Disappointingly outdated for such an important book This was a very important book in 1979 when it was first published, a book that I often recommended to gay/lesbian students who wanted to inform their parents. But the authors have been very lazy and have barely changed it in the 20 years since the first edition. I was disappointed in the second edition (1989) because it was virtually unchanged from the first edition except for an added chapter on AIDS and a minimally revised discussion of the PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) organization.The third edition is even worse. Again the first 9 chapters appear to be untouched. Even the AIDS chapter
If the coming out process is difficult for gay people, it is often equally difficult for their parents. Mixing common sense with a firm sense of social justice and love, the authors systematically address almost all of the problems faced by parents of gay people. --Michael Bronski. In Now That You Know: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children, Betty Fairchild and Nancy Hayward--the mothers of, respectively, a gay man and a lesbian--have charted the rough seas that almost every parent of a gay person travels. Answering questions on religion, AIDS, health, children, alternative families, and sex, they make the complicated gay world--often a nightmare vision for "just out" parents of gays--not only manageable but happy and nurturing. For many parents, a child's coming out feels
Fairchild and Hayward counsel parents on how to respond supportively to gay children and focus on bringing families together to maintain the bonds of acceptance. They also inform parents of the pressing health and emotional issues that affect the gay and lesbian communities today.. Written by two mothers of gay children, this award-winning book discusses the nature of homosexuality and works toward helping both children and parents understand each other